As I approached this month, and who I would donate to, the choice was a bit easier. In this case, the couple asking for help approached me. Not for help, but to just talk and share experiences, offer support, and to simply let us know that we’re not alone. We’ve only shared a couple emails, but they seem kind and I decided that this couple would be the next to get support from me. Perhaps some of you will choose to help them also. I know they’ll appreciate it. As for you, what can feel better then helping someone achieve their dream, aside from perhaps, achieving your own!
In the last nine months, I’ve had an increase in communication with others. Not much. Not drastic, but now two couples have reached out to me. One fertility clinic is following my twitter feed, and who knows who will come forward next! Maybe one day I’ll get a note from Jeff Probst! Hahaha … just kidding. I don’t need to hear from anyone to do what I’m doing but it sure is cool when people start talking back and sharing.
So sharing. Sharing is something we can all do. We don’t have to contribute financially to share. We can simply offer our thoughts, or prayers, our verbal support. I think sometimes we underestimate how much a simple “I hear you and you’re not alone” from a stranger can mean. I also think its easy to then say “That’s it?”. We’re human after all. We get caught in our own journeys and don’t always see beyond them to see that they overlap and interconnect with the journeys of others. We’re never really on our paths alone. We just choose sometimes to not see the person walking next to us who, at times, may need some help, a kind word, a bit of support.
It is also easy to say “that person just says they need help. Look at all the stuff they’re doing. If they’d just stop doing that, they wouldn’t need my help”. But really? Would we truly expect a person to give up all other aspects of their life for something else? Is that really appropriate? We have dreams and goals, but we have multiple dreams and goals. We have quality of life, and things that bring us comfort. I’m not talking about eating out every night, traveling every weekend to Paris, and then asking for someone to help them raise money for themselves (but hey, if they want to and someone wants to support that, more power to them). What I am suggesting is that its not our place to judge the worthiness of someone’s dream. I did once, looking at Indiegogo and seeing someone raising a lot of money to make a gun that shoots salt to kill flies, or the person who was raising some good money to make miniature zombie figures. I found myself thinking “Really”. fly guns and zombie figures? When there are people trying to have a family and need financial help. But in truth, that was judgement. Whose to say what those zombie figures will bring. Maybe that person will find themselves financially stable an thinking “I should give back”. Maybe they’ll need the money they get from making and selling their zombie figures for something like having a child, a medical procedure, or helping someone else in need. It shouldn’t be about not having, not giving, but rather giving and dreaming and living and pursuing and even more so, achieving!
So good luck to my new friends in their dreams. Good luck too to the zombie and fly gun campaigns. Though I’m not donating to you, I do truly wish you well. I may even buy a zombie figure when they’re produced! I’ve got a friend who’d love it!